I was at the LIANZA strategic planning day today. There were lots of things discussed including all the achievements over the past year. The two most interesting things (that I can talk about here) 1. Laurinda handing over the pounamu to Corin as the incoming president. She said the pounamu came with the knowledge of all the previous presidents who had worn it. 2. The number of individuals named by people during introductions as being influential on their professional career. (Apologies if those sentences are a bit confusing, we went out after the meeting…)
I can’t say too much else about the day* since it’s all work in progress. However I’m really excited to take up my President Elect role in July.
*Okay, one more.
During a discussion about ‘library’ as a career: “Where do librarians come from?”
Someone I know is interested in designing parks that are ‘women and children friendly’. Immediate responses from a couple of men “Do you mean parents and kids?” “Do you mean mothers and children? I think you should clarify.” It still bothers me that their comments bothered me but I didn’t say anything to them. I wish I’d said “Did you just…? Did you just assume that ‘women and children’ means mothers’ and under-5s? Did you just assume that the person speaking doesn’t mean exactly what she wrote? Are you saying that for the lack of an Oxford comma you can’t entertain the idea that ‘women’ and ‘children’ are two separate groups? DID. YOU. JUST. MOTHERFUCKER.”
I admit that it could have been a bit of an over-reaction.
What are some women and children friendly designs for parks/shared open spaces?
This article How to design a city for women is quite focused on women as caregivers but it does end with this “It’s become a way of changing the structure and fabric of the city so that different groups of people can coexist.” which is what I’d like to see.
“Is it illegal to rip up a book?”
“Is it one of ours?”
I am at a housewarming. We took a spinach salad & a decadent chocolate cake (because we’re nothing if not balanced.) The conversation has ranged over many topics including advertising standards, beauty competitions, movies, and the joys of smoking. Of particular interest is the number of times the lives of the people who are here have intersected previously but they are just discovering now. There is a lot of laughter and a lot of bubbles. Happy housewarming!
“how do I want people to remember me?” & then “have I done anything to help people remember me that way today?”
I often think about the first one and not so much about the second one. The answers to the first one vary depending on my mood. I like to think they are all realistic – terribly boring I know. ‘Generous’, ‘Lovely’, ‘She cared who I was’, ‘Made great pancakes’, etc. To help with that I work on the little things. Like being aware that every interaction is a way to make someone’s day neutral, if not better, or acknowledging the way someone feels without trying to change it or “You didn’t know that? OMG YOU HAVE SO MUCH FUN AHEAD OF YOU!” instead of “You didn’t know that? You ignorant piglet.”
This post from my tweep Emma speaks to that philosophy and to me.
Our lives are made up of a million tiny particles that gravitate toward one another, like grabbing like. I’ve got a rich tapestry of flaws, God knows (and so does anyone who’s met me). I want there to be more generosity, more love, more kindness in there, so that those particles can hang onto one another and grow.
I run a couple of Tumblrs chronicling the opinions and activities of a couple of people.
Anna’s Opinion of the Day started first – as a joke. I tweeted the link to Anna. She said she was disappointed it wasn’t a real thing. So I made it a real thing.
Dan Watch started because the main #dan tweeter was tweeting regularly about #dan. He thought the link was a joke, which of course it wasn’t because I’d learned from my previous experience.
I’m winding both of them up soon. It’s a lot of work to keep them up to date and I’m always terrified I’ll miss a #dan post. They were fun while they lasted.