100 Days Project: Day Three

This morning I had a twitter chat with a friend about calendars. They were sick of using three different calendars so I shared that I used to think that as well until I tried a single magical calendar and discovered I don’t like adding work stuff to my personal calendar and vice versa. They thought that this was probably going to be them as well. They work for different organisations so one of the solutions they came up with was to invite themselves at one organisation to a meeting at the other organisation (since they couldn’t share editing capability for each calendar). Some other people talked about Bullet Journaling.

This is all leading up to me saying that I had a time management fail yesterday. Everything stacked up at the end of the day – offsite meeting, 100 Days Project activity, preparing to [late notice] chair a meeting – all on Date Night.


Luckily I have a very chill and supportive Boo who went off to get pizza while I read through the meeting papers. (I’d read them but in a different way to the way I needed to read to chair.) Then we watched ETERNAL SUNSHINE OF THE SPOTLESS MIND and I tried to cartoon Kate Winslet and Jim Carrey. I’m so out of practice that I ended up with this instead.



100 Days Project: Day Two

I’ve been very lucky in flatmates at Morewine Cottage as they have all loved to cook for people. They enjoy experimenting with new recipes and playing with their favourites. I usually only cook when they’re not home or feeling tired. Tonight was one of those nights.


We had a can of sauerkraut left over from the hotdog party along with a bag of sausages (thank you party guest for bringing delicious frankfurters). There are plenty of recipes for sausages and sauerkraut so I gave one a go.

Fam. I have discovered I am not a fan of sauerkraut.

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100 days project: day one

I’ve signed up for the 100 Days Project, “a creativity project that anyone can take part in.” There are a few of us from Twitter doing it which means that I can draw strength from their ability to get shit made and not just flake out with excuses. (As Louise says “If it were the 100 Excuses Project we’d be so great”.)

My goal is broad and open so I can start/continue/finish the creative projects I already have in my head. (Although I’ve just noticed this is not in the rules. Oops. (_Is_ there even a creative exercise I want to repeat for 100 days? Maybe I’ll make a zine then I can say I’m making a page for a zine every day KTK.))  For some reason I feel creativity should be spontaneous even though I know that it takes preparation, practice, and a little bit of serendipity. I’m going to actively resist the temptation to pretend I don’t know what I’m doing!

I’ll only post images on the 100 Days Project website so I can blog about whatever I feel like writing about here. (I need to start writing again.) It will probably be about the process or what I was thinking about or aiming for. (I’ve been doing a lot of thinking about other aspects of my life and have come to the conclusion that it would be good to be able to track what process I was following.)


Today’s effort is a poem written during my lunch break. I exchange poems with a friend. We call it poetry buddying and of course there’s a Tumblr. The rules are to write a poem in response to, and building off, the other person’s work. I took ages to write my previous response so I was determined to write this one the same day I found out he’d posted a new one. I wanted to explore a rhythmical structure as he had. I also wanted to incorporate the “something old, something new” for brides at the end but it just wouldn’t work so I compromised.



Where to get help

These groups will do their very best to help you. Contact them – you’re worth it.

Lifeline (open 24/7) – 0800 543 354

Depression Helpline (open 24/7) – 0800 111 757

Healthline (open 24/7) – 0800 611 116

Samaritans (open 24/7) – 0800 726 666

Suicide Crisis Helpline (open 24/7) – 0508 828 865 (0508 TAUTOKO). This is a service for people who may be thinking about suicide, or those who are concerned about family or friends.

Youthline (open 24/7) – 0800 376 633. You can also text 234 for free between 8am and midnight, or email talk@youthline.co.nz

0800 WHATSUP children’s helpline – phone 0800 9428 787 between 1pm and 10pm on weekdays and from 3pm to 10pm on weekends. Online chat is available from 7pm to 10pm every day at www.whatsup.co.nz.

Kidsline (open 24/7) – 0800 543 754. This service is for children aged 5 to 18. Those who ring between 4pm and 9pm on weekdays will speak to a Kidsline buddy. These are specially trained teenage telephone counsellors.

Your local Rural Support Trust – 0800 787 254 (0800 RURAL HELP)

Alcohol Drug Helpline (open 24/7) – 0800 787 797. You can also text 8691 for free.

For further information, contact the Mental Health Foundation’s free Resource and Information Service (09 623 4812).

Real talk: Leadership

Some things I’ve learned. #YMMV

  • Flat shoes will usually mean that I’ll be the shortest person in the room
  • I won’t be able to enjoy a glass of wine at a function. Either I’ll be talking so much that I won’t be able to drink it, or I’ll be presenting so I’ll want to wait until after  (by which time the bar will be closed because that’s what happens during the speeches OR because it’s out of wine), or I’ll be representing so no wine for me.
  • It’s both less and more work than I think it’ll be
  • Mostly the work will be in getting the ducks lined up before the cats come in
  • It’s the best and the worst
  • People are the best
  • I’ll always wish I put on more mascara
  • And some lippy

Naming respect

I’ve written about the importance of names before. (I’m sure I have, I just can’t find the links.) About getting them right. About pronouncing them correctly. About having at least 10 names that people have used instead of my one. About having a name on social media that isn’t my name except that it is because that’s how I’m known and that’s what a name is.

Unless you choose to change your name by deed poll (or choose one on social media), the name that your parents give you is likely to be something that expresses their aspirations for you. Maybe it’s an expression of their desire to connect to their ancestors, or it’s a complete break from that. Perhaps they want you to stand out, or to blend in, or to be able to covertly break the gender barrier by having a gender neutral name. Whatever the reason, whatever it is, and however they spell it, I think an individual should be able to have their name respected.

So if you mock kids names as ‘stupid’ or ‘low class’ or wish someone’s name was ‘easier to pronounce’ then I’ll be judging you. Hard. Because in my opinion what you’re really saying is that you don’t respect the worldview that gave that child that name. You don’t respect that diversity means allowing new things in. You’re basically saying you want to keep your privilege. That’s just being a jerk.


Testing to see if I can blog from my phone…

Yes? Yes!


Kris cheersSomeone (Kia ora Steph!) wrote about a reunion and the things she still had (or did not have) in common with others. There’s a neat little sentence about hair so I thought I’d share this pic from a long time ago. This is my very first tweet up, photo taken by er, James I think? (I’m a appalled to discover I’ve forgotten the reference!) I’m always using it for things so it’s likely you’ve seen this before. At that time I had a policy of only having photos taken with a drink.


Overwork and burnout

My synergistic links today are from #blogjune writer Alisa Howlett of Flight Path and Zoë Krupka writing at The Conversation.

Alisa says this about #blogjune “I enjoy how we take the lid off ourselves and reveal what gets us going in the morning, what brings a smile, what makes us tick and the issues and opportunities we are currently dealing with.” She’s going to “reflect upon and share my thoughts on steps I have taken towards improved well being.” She identifies why this is so important for library workers to share.”Passion can easily take over. We are a bunch of passionate people, striving to serve our communities the best way we can. Our profession is somewhat unique in the sense that there are so many pathways you can take, each one manifesting our passion in slightly different ways. There is no ladder. Only ideas to bring to life and opportunities to exercise our passion.” In many cases this means burnout, disillusion, & getting out of the profession.

Zoë is writing about health and work, and how wellness initiatives aren’t the answer to  overwork. I was particularly struck by her final paragraph (emphasis mine) “No amount of multivitamins, yoga, meditation, sweaty exercise, superfoods or extreme time management, as brilliant as all these things can be, is going to save us from the effects of too much work. This is not something we can adapt to. Not something we need to adjust the rest of our lives around. It is not possible and it’s unethical to pretend otherwise.” It seems so obvious but “Nothing can alleviate the stress of overwork except working less” is not always easy to implement.

I think it’s possible to ride a balance between work and overwork as long as you have good support structures and everything is going according to the plan (or the best outcomes for unplanned situations.) But woe and disaster if something does not go according to plan – the carefully balanced load of work/family/obligations/fun/housekeeping tips over like an apple cart spoiling everything. I know that if I don’t get a couple of days at home per fortnight to just do nothing then the next week is going to be a lot more difficult to cope with.

Balance in life. Balance in work.